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For almost two weeks, my laptop was out of commission. It’s quite an experience to not have my regular access to the internet. To be unable to just type up how I felt about something that happened that day, or read the latest article on feminism or marriage equality. 

I’ve always valued how powerful it is for the world to have access to so many things just at the typing of a few keys. What I didn’t realize was how important it is to me to have access to the internet.

The internet was the place I felt accepted. It showed me a world where people like me, members of the LGBT society, could meet and feel accepted. It gave me access to pictures of adorable gay and lesbian couples getting married. It kept me updated on the Human Rights Campaign and their fight for marriage equality. It empowered me to remember that Women can do anything men can, and that I shouldn’t let hateful people tell me being a feminist is wrong. It gave me access to LGBT books and shows.

For me, the internet helped me gain confidence in who I am, and constantly bring encouragement to my computer screen. If I hadn’t had access to the internet, I fear that I would still be afraid of who I am, hiding, or even something worse.

So I am thankful for the internet, and all it has done in my life.

But I am worried for those who do not have this kind of access. Worried about those in the LGBT community that are growing up suppressing themselves because they do not understand what it is like to find people who are like them. People who are understanding and supportive. 

Right now our world struggles to have completely supportive communities. And I know from the patterns of history that it is very possible that even if we do achieve marriage equality in a few years un the U.S., that we will not find ourselves in completely accepting communities in the near future.

I don’t know how to help those in the LGBTQ community that do not have the same priviladges that myself and anyone reading this. But I hope to one day find a way. Because life isn’t easy for anyone, and I want to help. I want to help those who do not understand.

So, any ideas?

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I know it’s a bit dorky, but one of my favorite things to do is hold my girlfriend’s hand. It makes me happy. So this commercial by Allstate really got to me. I’m not one to overly endorse companies, but I appreciate that they’re willing to step out and say that they support members of the LGBT community. I’m well aware they’re not the first company to come out in support, and I’m thankful that they probably wont be the last. I’m incredibly excited to see how the world is changing for the better, it makes me hopeful for the future.

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Bad Blood Between The FDA and The Gays

Reality: The FDA Bans Gay and Bisexual Men from donating blood.
When I first heard about this in high school, I thought they meant all people in the LGBT community. Suddenly I was confused and afraid, not sure why limitations would keep popping up in my life all due to my sexuality. It really upset me, but soon found out that I probably should not donate blood due to a heavy medication that I have to take for my severe asthma and allergies. Now I don’t have to worry about having an excuse to not give blood, but it still bothers me that there are plenty of healthy donors out there that have been banned from giving blood.
One of my friends recently shared with me an active movement to attempt to draw attention to the ban and remove it to help save lives. He has a blood type that is commonly needed by the red cross, but he is not allowed to donate. His passion made me realize that so many people could benefit from having more healthy and willing donors. Help us make a difference. Donate blood, donate money, buy a t-shirt, spread the word, sign the petition, do what you can. I know I would go donate blood if my medication wasn’t dangerous to others.
This is our chance to make a difference in something that could not only benefit the LGBT community, but also save the lives of many people in need.
Let’s make a difference.

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This is the video that really pushed me to write about the importance of consent. If you haven’t seen it, it’s pretty great, and explains the importance of consent way better than I do.

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It’s been a while since I’ve posted because life is a crazy-hectic mess, and class has been overruling tumblr for the last few months. But I came across a video that really verbalized some things I’ve been trying to communicate to others lately, so I’m just going to hop right on back into my comfy spot on tumblr and write about it.
I’ve recently found myself in cahoots with a beautiful girl. About a month ago I asked her to be my girlfriend, and we’ve been doing cute things like holding hands and going on dates ever since. But one of my habitual things I do when I’m with her is ask for her permission. I say things like, “Can I kiss you?” “Is this okay?” “Do you mind if my hand is on your back?” “How are you doing?”
She told me recently that she was annoyed the first time I did that, and the whole time she was thinking, “Just kiss me already, the anticipation is making me nervous!”
And don’t get me wrong, I’m super excited she wanted me to kiss her, but we’re both extremely awkward people, and it was really hard to tell from her facial expressions if she actually wanted me to kiss her or not, and sexual assault is not my game.
You see, one of my roommates once dated a guy that made her feel horrible about herself because he did things like make her take her shirt off, and touch her boobs when she hadn’t given him permission. She liked his attention, but he was overly aggressive. She even came home with bruises a couple times from their make out sessions, when he would push her into things. And another good friend of mine was raped by a guy she was just friends with because he wouldn’t take no for an answer and forced himself on her.
We live in a world where sexual assault and rape happen way too often. Rape culture is something I’ve found myself talking about more and more in class and with the people I love and care about. I’m upset with how hard it is for both men and women to understand why we should check for consent throughout our relationships, especially considering how damaging it can be to both of the people involved.
I will keep constantly checking in with my girlfriend when we’re together because I care and respect for her. The last thing I want to do is make her feel uncomfortable or unvalued because I’m an inconsiderate and forceful girlfriend.
If you’re in a relationship, it’s not just about you doing what you want. You should care about the other person, and show them that by respecting them. And don’t let them make you feel any less by letting them do things you’re not ready to do. There should be a mutual respect in a relationship, so nobody feels damaged, devalued, or assaulted.
Care for your partner. Ask for permission. Check for consent.

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"This world would be a whole lot better if we just made an effort to be less horrible to one another. If we took just five minutes to recognize each other’s beauty instead of attacking each other for our differences. That’s not hard. It’s really an easier and better way to live."

Source: fourteendrawings
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  • Question: How are you a Christian and gay? - Anonymous
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    fallingasleepinherarms:

    The same way god says to love all creatures. The same way God has the only power to judge whats wrong and what’s right. The same way the original bible has no translation of any word close to homosexual in it. That’s how.

    Some people just know how to forwardly answer these questions, and I love it.

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About a year ago I joined a sorority on my campus. At the time, none of the girls knew I’m a lesbian. In fact, the first person I told that semester was one of our Advisors, because I was super stressed and felt like crap, and she knew I was hiding something. She took it like a pro, and at the time I had no idea she was the wife of a pastor, but as far as I’m concerned she handled it with the right amount love, care, and understanding that any church member should.
I’ve now held an important position in my sorority, and I know all of the girls fairly well. But not a lot of them really know me. So I’ve begun my mission to stop keeping secrets from them and begin to tell everyone about this part of me that they are not familiar with.
And naturally, with the assistance of my roommates (who are also in my sorority), I told the president. Go big or go home. And she informed me that her freshman year roommate was a lesbian. I swear, straight girls know more lesbians on this campus than I do.
After that I decided to tell my set designer for one of our shows. At first I thought she was going to be one of those people that are like, “Thank you for telling me, now lets never talk about it again.” Instead I found us in my kitchen at 3am, handing a bowl of mac&cheese to our president, asking her if she’s a fork kind of girl or a spoon kind of girl. The president responded with, “Is that a trick question?” and our set designer looks me dead in the eyes and says, “Well, you’re definitely a spoon.” Our jaws dropped so fast. She just laughed and exited the room while we stared at her in surprise.
And then, because I was on a roll, my roommates talked me into telling the pledge that I’m “mentoring.” And when I told her, my roommates all sitting at the kitchen table with us, she just started laughing and said, “I love you.” Thus leading us all into laughter.
I assume that many people will not handle it well the way many people assume gays will not attend a Christian university. It’s silly of me to think that. And while I know that not everyone is going to handle it well, that doesn’t mean no one will. I’m lucky to have the support of my sorority sisters as I become honest with them about myself.

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rl-y:

jamiedole:

Ellen Page came out, and the first thing I thought of was this SNL sketch where she played a very closeted lesbian. :D

From SNL season 33, episode 6

Omfg

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For the last few weeks I’ve been running around like a maniac, being the director for an absolutely hilarious music show full of singing and dancing. I’ve been too busy to sit down and think through a new blog post, especially since we’ve had shows for the last couple days, and have two more today. But I’m making time right now to say what’s important.
People in power have a hard life. Closeted people in power have it even harder.
So imagine my excitement when a fantastic Football player like Michael Sam comes out. This guy stepped up and said, I may not be signed to a team yet, but that’s not going to stop me from telling the world who I am. If you haven’t heard of him, google can help. I’m not from Mizzou, but I definitely have my links to that University, and they let all of Facebook know how proud they are to have such a supportive school.
And on top of that, Ellen Page came out last night.
I was having a horrible night, then I saw that. I literally got so excited that all my roommates looked at me like I was about to sprint out of the house and run until I found her and gave her a great big bear hug (or something like that). Because being the well-known actress that she is puts her in one hell of a position. Coming out like that could make a huge difference to some sweet-hearted teenager that felt like no girl knew what it felt like to like girls until she saw her favorite actress do it.
And yes, I’ve had a thing for Ellen Page for a while now (I mean, have you seen Whip it?), so I will happily be in the line of girls that want to tell her thank you for being brave and coming out. This world is hard, but that doesn’t mean we can’t change it for the better, one closet door at a time.
And while it’s hard to come out, we have some pretty great people to look up to as we make our way though this. And though you may not be famous, and I may not be famous, that doesn’t mean any of us coming out couldn’t change the lives of someone who needs an important LGBT figure in their lives to show them it’s okay to be different.
Michael Sam and Ellen Page know all about that.